party, and vice versa. That is why the spirit of cooperation is invaluable. Thinking collaboratively will help you get what you want as you give others what they want.
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Remember, companies are made up of people: It is as simple and as complex as separating the private and professional parts of everyday life. Businesses are led by people, but if things get personal rather than professional, particularly during tough and possibly heated negotiations, people might get into the fight-or-flight mode. This stops them from thinking rationally, makes discussions unproductive, and can ultimately damage business relationships. Being tough on business topics but considerate and respectful with people you are negotiating with will help you get what you want and need.
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Choose empathy: Negotiating can be an emotional business. You might think you have to choose between being tough and detached to keep a clear head in negotiations, or being sympathetic to the other party and their feelings, if you want to reach an agreement, but it is not the only choice. You can also choose empathy. It will allow you to assert your interests without being too harsh and to show understanding of the other party’s feelings without having to feel the same way.
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Be proactive rather than reactive: It is important to prepare for all potential courses of action if you want your negotiations to succeed. It is not only about having a plan of action, but also about being proactive in preventing unfavorable developments and in steering negotiations in the right direction. The right trade-offs, the right people, the right timing, and the right approaches are the keys to success. Thorough preparation will help you to establish what “right” means in your business situation.
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Never lie: There are many reasons why lying is a bad idea. It is hard to keep track of both the bigger picture and the consistency of your claims. You will look foolish if your lies are discovered because there is no easy way to justify them. It is a tempting strategy in the short term but detrimental to your reputation in the long term. You might feel you either have to tell the truth or lie, but that is not actually the case – you can simply decide not to share everything.